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Letter to my boyfriend

September 30, 2008

To My Jeremy, my love, my husband,

I love you. You are the best man I have ever met. I am your Dwight Shrute and you are my Michael Scott. I am your Rachel and you are my Ross. I am your Marge and you are my Homer. You make me laugh through my nose…yes sometimes it hurts but then you are there to comfort me and wipe my face. You make me love being able to love. That is why I cry during Grey’s Anatomy – because I wish Meredith could love McDreamy as much as I love you. You make me proud to be called the ball and chain. I wear that badge with honor because it means you married little old me!

My dear hubbie, so many people are always commenting on why I call you my “boyfriend” when you are clearly more – you are my husband. But is that more? I know that being married means we are able to procreate without judgement. I know that we get a sweet tax break for filing jointly. I know marriage means that it is perfectly normal to know what goes down in the bathroom. But is that MORE than being my boyfriend?!

In today’s society people choose a spouse and a have a lawn guy (or a physical trainer or a pool boy) on the side. But you see, I want my cake and wanna eat it too. Sure you are my legal spouse. But people don’t understand that you are also my boytoy. You are the guy that I chose almost one year ago. And you are the guy that I will choose tomorrow. But let’s be honest, we live in a society that says husbands are not the same as being one’s boyfriend.

Yes, you are my hubbie. You cringe when I poot under the sheets. You say “I think you are beautiful” when I bring up my poochy fat roll. You blowdry my hair when my shoulder muscle has cramped from the sixty pound hairdryer. But you are more than the things you do for me. Those are husband things. And baby – you are more than my husband.

You are my best friend. You are my best boy. And as my boyfriend, it is not about the things you do for me. It is actually about me. (like always!) It is the way I look at you. The way I feel about you. The way I ache for you. Those are the things that make you my boyfriend.

All I can hope for is that I will always think of you as more than my husband. And I pray that you think of me as your trophy wife.

Your sugar lump lump,

20 Comments leave one →
  1. mrs.leah.maria permalink
    September 30, 2008 8:44 pm

    {sigh} Awwww! To precious of a post!

    I have to admit, I’m one of those readers who needed the explanation!

  2. Kim & Ryan permalink
    September 30, 2008 8:46 pm

    This may be the cutest thing I’ve ever read. You are so right… why are a boyfriend and husband considered two different things? Could this mentality be part of the infidelity problem… I’m off to ponder that.

  3. tohearn14 permalink
    September 30, 2008 9:13 pm

    Aaah, newly weds-I love it! Never thought of it that way, makes you think! ;)

  4. Michael permalink
    September 30, 2008 10:18 pm

    Awww…so sweet!

  5. Sea-Squared permalink
    October 1, 2008 1:25 pm

    Very sweet!

  6. Glamorous Life of a House Wife permalink
    October 1, 2008 4:02 pm

    Aw, you are so much fun! What a great letter to the hubs! Err…boyfriend! :) I totally understand what you are saying, though. I love it!

  7. Katie permalink
    October 1, 2008 9:16 pm

    Hi ya’ll – glad that my little love letter to my boyfriend brought a little smile to some of your faces (sometimes that gooshy stuff can make people gag!)

    And now that the cat’s outta the bag about the WHY – I hope I see many more of your posts refer to your hubbie as your boyfriend! That would make me happy.


    XO – Katie

  8. G+D permalink
    October 1, 2008 9:49 pm

    Awwww, Katie–so sweet!!

  9. Freckles Chick permalink
    October 2, 2008 2:12 am

    My favorites:
    “You cringe when I poot under the sheets.”
    “I pray that you think of me as your trophy wife.”

    OMG, Katie, I laughed, I cried. This post was a roller coaster of emotions for me. I blame my PMS.

    Super duper sweet words =)

  10. sunT permalink
    February 7, 2009 6:04 pm

    this was really cute. great post! i randomly lurk and i found the “boyfriend” story awesome so i had to tell you. your humor comes through when you write!

  11. Anonymous permalink
    May 22, 2009 9:24 pm

    If you do have a boyfriend, why marriage then?

  12. Katie permalink
    May 22, 2009 11:21 pm

    Hi Anon – See paragraph 2. Sweet tax break, no judgement, and toilet info…those are the basics. But that trio is just the tip of the iceburg on why we got hitched. There’s the whole lot more. Like the fact that he can’t legally get rid of me without shelling out a huge amount of dough. Yeah…I like that one. a lot :)

    XO – Katie

  13. June 10, 2009 8:48 pm

    That was really heartfelt and honest. I just might show it to my little slice of a boyfriend!

  14. October 22, 2009 8:34 pm

    love love love this! your blog is awesome….

  15. Sarah permalink
    October 30, 2009 11:58 pm

    Haha! I need to show this to my boyfriend/hubby. I called him my boyfriend the other day to be romantic and he asked (with great concern), “Why did you demote me?”

  16. Gale permalink
    December 27, 2009 1:08 am

    After over 35 years of marriage, my husband is still my “boyfried” and always will be. I know you will have the same relationship after 1 year or 50 years.

  17. Meghann permalink
    February 12, 2010 11:27 am

    I love this. My father has called my mom his “girlfriend” FOREVER… I wanted this for myself when I married.. to love like you do when you first fall in love. I have that… my hubby is and has always been that boy that I met when I was 15. I love him more then I did back then, but he still excites me and makes me giggle like I am a teenager. We have shared 14 years together and 8.5 years of marriage and he still amazes me!

  18. Ashley permalink
    March 3, 2010 12:02 pm

    It is sooooo awesome to see someone who feels the same way about their husband as I do! You said all the things I couldn’t get out of my head onto paper! I have been married for almost 4 years and when I am married 20 or 30 years I still want people to think we are newly weds! :)Love your letter. I totally got it! ;)

  19. Carla permalink
    April 13, 2010 2:00 pm

    Beautiful, if I didn’t know any better I would have sworn you were a Girl Raised In The South (G.R.I.T.S). In the south it’s always about the G.R.I.T.S. just a wee bit mores sutle I guess, LOL. Thanks for sharing a romantic letter.


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